WHAT IS ANGER?
Anger is a way that the body gets ready to act. Itís the way that Mother Nature enables us to assert ourselves in the world. Anger is a normal reaction to stress, but it requires that we learn to deal with the resulting behavior in an acceptable fashion.
DID YOU KNOW?
When it comes to marital strife, anger may be gender-specific. In 1990, University of Michigan researchers studied 192 married couples. They found that in households where partners held back angry feelings, the wives had a higher mortality rate than women in relationships where anger was openly expressed. For the men, their wivesí anger had no affect upon their health or longevity.
HEALTHY VS. UNHEALTHY ANGER
Most children and adults have feelings of anger from time to time. When anger is expressed in a way that allows us to share our feelings and our opinions calmly, or when anger is expressed in a way that helps us to change a situation or to solve a problem, it is healthy. Anger that is "held in" until the person needs to explode, is unhealthy anger.
Examples of healthy anger:
Using words to say "That idea makes me angry because...." OR "It makes me angry when you...."
Examples of unhealthy anger:
Fighting, verbal abuse, hitting/biting/kicking, or hurting another person in some way.
No parent wants to have a child throw dishes or kick the dog when they become angry. Here are some thoughts on how to help kids express their anger in an acceptable way:
If your child's anger increases beyond an occasional flare-up, and your talking seems futile, seek help from a professional.
SIX STRATEGIES FOR PARENTS TO COOL OFF
RISK FACTORS ASSOCIATED WITH ANGER IN CHILDREN
Stress and frustration can cause children to become angry. As anger builds up over time, problems can result for teachers, parents, and for children themselves. Here are some factors that cause children to feel increases in anger:
Here are some anger-related behaviors your child may be demonstrating:
WHAT'S A PERSON TO DO?
What can be done when anger rules our life? Talk to someone. A spouse, another parent, a friend, a minister, or a trained counselor can help us to put into perspective angry feelings or behaviors. Sometimes just talking about what makes us angry (parent and child) can help us to think about solutions to our problems. At other times, physical exercise helps us to relieve our anger.